One of the overarching themes that I see people talking about is all the “drama”  in their love lives. They talk about how people have shown up in their lives, only to be dishonest and disappoint them — as so many have done before. When one person wrote about that recently, he asked for input on how he could learn to trust again – after having been disappointed so many times. It reminded me of a phrase that a friend of mine used several years ago.

He said, “We Create Our Own Chaos.”

Now while it doesn’t sound like it, that is a very empowering statement. What we tend to do is to blame other people for all the pain we suffer in relationships. However, if we begin to realize that “We Create Our Own Chaos” then we have the opportunity to exam our attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors so as to bring about more desirable results. When we really get good at this, we will see that we get exactly what we ask for.

Stated another way: the people that come to us are a direct reflection of the  energy that we are sending out. They don’t just sort of represent – they precisely reflect – the energy that we are sending out. They are answering our call.